It’s not uncommon that clients come to me wanting to tackle different challenges in their life. And one of the things I typically like to work on with them is their personal magnetism. Personal magnetism is not something only held by celebrities and politicians. All of us have our own kind or style of magnetism.
On a very basic level, our bodies have their own energy field, which like a magnet either attracts people, situations and even things toward us or repels them in the opposite direction. Our thoughts and emotions are also connected to the energy we send out, and our thoughts and emotions have a great deal to do with how others perceive us and how we interact in the world. Think about people you have been naturally drawn to, as well as those that you have been wary of.
Changing our thoughts and getting clearer about our emotions has a direct impact on our magnetism level. The key here is for us to become aware of the types of thoughts and emotions that we generate and process. Are these feelings and thoughts positive and open to possibilities, or are they negative and critical of others and ourselves? The simplest way to think about this is to realize that we tend to attract exactly what we focus on. To discover what that is, we just need to check in throughout the day to see how we’re feeling. What is your inner monologue saying? Where are your thoughts and daydreams taking you? This process isn’t necessarily an obvious one, and once you start paying attention to this inner space, you might be surprised by the state of your internal world.
For example, if you find yourself having a negative thought such as, “I’ll never get ahead,” you’re sending out negative or repelling energy. But if you turn that thought into a positive statement, like “I am tackling the challenges along my chosen path,” then you’ll be sending out more open, determined energy. Try this exercise a couple of times throughout the day with the intention of directing your thoughts more constructively. If you find that your thoughts are stressed or even tense, take a short three to five-minute break and do something positive. Get a glass of water or tea, or do some little stretches to loosen up. Do what you need to do to get yourself back on track!
One thing I often recommend to others and something I like to do myself, especially when I need a little pick-me-up is to listen to the old folk song, “This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine…”
“You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.”
Writer, Leo Aikman
Your action for today is to notice what you say about others.
Have an extraordinary day!